Admiration Another Way Of Fostering Love L06

   Having someone on your side and looking out for you is something we all want. Marriage is not a one time done and won, it's constant work for days, weeks, months and hopefully many years. I think it is so powerful to nurture fondness and admiration, especially if you want a long-lasting marriage. I think this is so important because no matter the situation whether it be a relative or a spouse or a best friend there is something bound to happen where you may not be too fond of that person. I have seen it in my own marriage, where I or my husband do something the other is not too fond about it is hard to feel admiration towards the other person in the moment. I have always wanted to think of how I can better serve or help my husband, it humbles me to help him in what he needs because then it makes me think of his problems or what he is going through instead of my own all the time. I think this is also super critical, to help fond admiration and appreciation. This is something that I like to think of when I am annoyed at something little he did that for some reason pushes my buttons, it helps me see him in a positive light even when I don't necessarily want to.

   While I was reading in "The Seven Principles for making marriage work" I was completing the questionnaires  along side my husband to see where we both stand. I was super impressed on how well we know each other, I am always asking him questions about how well his day went or what was the best part of his day. Whenever something super funny or crazy happens he is always the first person I want and think to tell. I guess these communications we have have helped us be aware of what is going on in each others lives, since we spend most of our days apart instead of together. I had never thought of how crucial a love map would be, it makes complete sense for it to be a super important part of marriage. I think it is especially applicable when both spouses are working full time and have a life completely separate from their spouse all day.

   I have found myself reflecting on the story of Dr.Rory and how focused he was on his career and his patients and putting his family on the back burner, I think it is super important to think about where your priorities are. I am sure Dr. Rory did not realize he was treating his coworkers and patients better than his own wife and kids, he was just so consumed in his own career and all his energies were focused on himself instead of his family which is where he made a huge mistake. 

   Dr. Rory like the rest of us had not been aware of how he was not actively fostering that admiration for his wife. He probably somewhere deep down did have a lot of admiration for his wife but was not showing it in his actions